She’s not just a “Little Dancer Age Fourteen,” she’s a strong young woman trying to rewrite her story, and we could learn a lot from her. Like any good graduate of a liberal arts education, I could easily identify the Little Dancer as a work of Degas as soon as I saw it at the […]
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That Zoom life.
For all it’s challenges, I’m fascinated with the cultural shifts around it.For example, my ministry coaching groups have been on Zoom for years, but I used to have to convince people that they could build real relationships and feel a connection with someone they’d only ever met online. Now people know that real relationships can […]
Shoutout to everyone who made it to the second day of something new.
You are courageous, resilient, and flexible.When I was in 8th grade, my family moved to a new state, which meant starting at a new school in the middle of the year. The morning of my first day I said to my mother, “I wish I could magically start on the second day because I’d already […]
Mirrors are for reflecting back our outer self as we make adjustments.
Mirrors are for reflecting back our outer self as we make adjustments. What mirror do you have for your inner self that helps you make adjustments?Sometimes we see ourselves in shows and movies and learn something that improves our lives. Sometimes we are more intentional with our inner life so we seek out books and […]
And just like that, the sun has set on my seventeenth year of living in New York City.
As I think of myself seventeen and eighteen years ago, I remember how hard it was to decide to leave what I had and move halfway across the country. I had a tight-knit community of friends in Minnesota, affectionately called our “Urban Tribe.” I enjoyed my youth ministry team and could have easily continued to […]
God is calling you to do less.
God is calling you to do less, in order to do more of what you are really called to do. That applies to you. That applies to your family. That applies to your church or organization. Onstage I often portray impossibly efficient yet always “together” mid-century housewives, but in real life, we need to do […]
Isn’t it funny the things we end up missing because of the Coronavirus?
Isn’t it funny the things we end up missing because of the Coronavirus? What is one thing you took for granted and now miss?Here’s mine: I love to run into people when I didn’t expect it. I love it so much that I’d list it as one of my “favorite things” when the situation called […]
New beginnings and painful endings.
Over the last couple of weeks, many of my coaching clients have been walking through some painful endings. Honestly, all of America seems to be walking through a painful ending.Whether it’s time to end a job, a destructive habit, a relationship that isn’t going to work, or an embedded belief about racism, it’s going to […]
Stay engaged in your important work.
I’ll be honest: the protests and demonstrations have been more difficult for me than the pandemic ever was. It’s hitting me in a much more personal way. I could go into it, but this is not about me.I’m doing some things to be part of the solution, but you don’t need a list from some […]
Onward with our “Would-Have-Beens.”
Ah, that “would have been” life. This would have been the opening night of my next (9th? 10th?) production of “Church Basement Ladies.” We all have a few “would have beens” right now. What are yours? Celebrate them. Mourn them. Maybe recreate a part of them. Perhaps I’ll fling a few peanuts through the air […]